A couple months ago I saw a woman’s instagram post about making love to your spouse at the moments you least expect you’d want or need it—after a long day with kids, a busy work day, or if you are just plain over each other at the end of the day.
I don’t remember her name or the exact words, but the message stuck with me: how she and her partner made love when she least wanted to, and it turned out to be what she needed most.
I think about that sometimes because it just makes sense. After a long day with kids in your face, customers to deal with, stressful life situations, an argument about this or that, what better to way to reconnect with your partner and melt away some of that built-up stress than to get intimate?
Now I’m not talking about some hookup, a one-night stand, or even just regular intimacy with a spouse or partner. I’m talking about that deep spiritual intimacy only your loved one knows. That intimate connection only you and your partner share.
Being intimate isn’t about getting off or just feeling good. It isn’t about making each other feel better. It isn’t something to pass time, something you have to do because someone else wants to, or because you think you should.
Being intimate is so much more.
It’s a spiritual connection.
A connection of your souls, your energies.
Your energy literally intertwines with your partner’s.
It is woven together and shared.
It’s raw and vulnerable—an energy so palpable that when you become aware of it, it fills the space between you and carries its own power.
It’s a beautiful, soul deep love.
If this feels unfamiliar, it may be time to explore yourself, learn yourself, and learn your partner. There are new levels of love and connection you can gain once you realize such levels exist.
With your partner, and with yourself.
Do you know this level of intimacy? This soulful connection?
I hope you find this in your life.
With love,
NJ.